Have you ever been snubbed by someone?
It sucks .. big time and I don't know if you ever really mature enough to the point that you don't let it get to you.
I was talking to one of my boys about this recently. He had said hello to a kid at the shops and had received barely a sniff back in return. It hurt him and me and to be honest I wanted to walk up to that kid and ask him what his problem is. Clearly I am mature.
My son asked me if that ever happens to me and does it bother me and I told him that yep it does happen and that I just ignore it, forget about it and try not to let it get to me.
It wasn't until I was brushing my teeth last night that I got to thinking, Bullshit! It does get to me and the truth be told it actually really pisses me off when it happens.
Usually at the time I just kind of embarrassingly wave it off in a self preserving kind of way. But inevitably later on, it will start to grate my nerves and I may even go so far as to have an imaginary conversation with the person who snubbed me. And can I tell you, I give them a proper serve in that convo.
I dont get it, snubbing I mean. I'd like to think it is because someone is shy or socially inept rather than rude or full of themselves, but the jury is still out on that.
There are 2 times that stick out for me in the past year where I have received a major snubbing.
Once was at my kids school where I walked up to another mum who I have chatted with on numerous occasions and I just started nattering away. She seriously stared at me like I had boogers hanging out of my nose. I may have stuttered something about needing to check lost property before I made a hasty and shameful retreat.
The other time I was at a blogging event when I spied someone I had admired for ages and I adored her blog. In my usual over excited style I raced over and threw my arms around her in the biggest hug. I didn't think about it before I did it, such is my way. I was just excited at the prospect of meeting her.
The response I got was as warm as a wet fish and even afterwards as I tried to make small talk with her I got nothing in return except for what I can only imagine were bored and disdainful stares.
I tried to laugh both occasions off, but the reality is that they stuck with me. They made me a little less trusting and willing to be so open with new people for fear of rejection and humiliation.
So yes my dear boy, I totally get it. When you are snubbed by someone when you are trying to be friendly, it hurts. And I am also pretty sure it has happened to all of us at some time or another and I don't know if anyone is ever really immune to the pain it can cause.
Have you ever been snubbed?
What happened and how did you react?
What advice would you give your child if it happened to them?